Thursday, March 14, 2013

Great Quote from Astoria's District Attorney


Great write-up  From the NEW YORK TIMES

(including Clatsop’s finest District Attorney)

May be from 2004, but shows view he uses today

^^^  LINK  ^^^      (Look for blue and yellow (DA) hi-lights)


Study Suspects Thousands Of False Convictions

 By Adam Liptak
The New York Times

April 19, 2004
A comprehensive study of 328 criminal cases over the last 15 years in which the convicted person was exonerated suggests that there are thousands of innocent people in prison today.
Almost all the exonerations were in murder and rape cases, and that implies, according to the study, that many innocent people have been convicted of less serious crimes. But the study says they benefited neither from the intense scrutiny that murder cases tend to receive nor from the DNA evidence that can categorically establish the innocence of people convicted of rape.

Prosecutors, however, have questioned some of the methodology used in the study, which was prepared at the University of Michigan and supervised by a law professor there, Samuel R. Gross. They say the number of exonerations is quite small when compared with the number of convictions during the 15-year period. About 2 million people are in American prisons and jails.

The study identified 199 murder exonerations, 73 of them in capital cases. It also found 120 rape exonerations. Only nine cases involved other crimes. In more than half of the cases, the defendants had been in prison for more than 10 years.
The study's authors said they picked 1989 as a starting point because it was the year of the first DNA exoneration. Of the 328 exonerations they found in the intervening years, 145 involved DNA evidence.
In 88 percent of the rape cases in the study, DNA evidence helped free the inmate. But biological evidence is far less likely to be available or provide definitive proof in other kinds of cases. Only 20 percent of the murder exonerations involved DNA evidence, and almost all of those were rape-murders.
The study, which will be presented Friday at a conference of defense lawyers in Austin, Tex., also found that very different factors contributed to wrongful convictions in rape and murder cases.

Some 90 percent of false convictions in the rape cases involved misidentification by witnesses, very often across races. In particular, the study said black men made up a disproportionate number of exonerated rape defendants.
The racial mix of those exonerated, in general, mirrored that of the prison population, and the mix of those exonerated of murder mirrored the mix of those convicted of murder. But while 29 percent of those in prison for rape are black, 65 percent of those exonerated of the crime are.
Interracial rapes are, moreover, uncommon. Rapes of white women by black men, for instance, represent less than 10 percent of rapes, according to the Justice Department. But in half of the rape exonerations where racial data was available, black men were falsely convicted of raping white women.

"The most obvious explanation for this racial disparity is probably also the most powerful," the study says. "White Americans are much more likely to mistake one black person for another than to do the same for members of their own race."
On the other hand, the study found that the leading causes of wrongful convictions for murder were false confessions and perjury by codefendants, informants, police officers or forensic scientists. 
A separate study considering 125 cases involving false confessions was published in the North Carolina Law Review last month and found that such confessions were most common among groups vulnerable to suggestion and intimidation.
"There are three groups of people most likely to confess," said Steven A. Drizin, a law professor at Northwestern, who conducted the study with Richard A. Leo, a professor of criminology at the University of California, Irvine. "They are the mentally retarded, the mentally ill and juveniles."
Professor Drizin, too, said false confessions were most common in murder cases.

"Those are the cases where there is the greatest pressure to obtain confessions," he said, "and confessions are often the only way to solve those crimes."
Professor Drizin said that videotaping of police interrogations would cut down on false confessions.
The authors of the Michigan study offered dueling rationales for the murder exonerations, and both reasons, they said, were disturbing.

There may be more murder exonerations, they said, because the cases attract more attention, especially when a death sentence is imposed. Death row inmates represent a quarter of 1 percent of the prison population but 22 percent of the exonerated.
That suggests that innocent people are often convicted in run-of-the-mill cases. Indeed, the study says, "if we reviewed prison sentences with the same level of care that we devote to death sentences, there would have been more than 28,500 non-death-row exonerations in the past 15 years rather than the 255 that have in fact occurred."

The study offered a competing theory, as well. Mistakes, it said, may be more likely in murder cases and far more likely in capital cases.

"The truth," the study concludes, "is clearly a combination of these two appalling possibilities."

Critics of the Michigan study questioned its methodology, saying it overstated the number of authentically innocent people. The study calls every nullification of a conviction by a governor, court or prosecutor declaring a person not guilty of a crime an exoneration.

In Astoria, Ore., Joshua Marquis, the district attorney for Clatsop County, said many of the

people exonerated under the study's definition may nonetheless have committed the crimes in question, though the evidence may have become too weak to prove that beyond a reasonably doubt.

"The real number of people on death row exonerated in the sense of being actually innocent in the modern era of the death penalty is about 25 to 30," Mr. Marquis said. The Michigan study put the number at 73.
He added that even the error rate suggested by the study was tolerable given the American prison population.

"We all agree that it is better for 10 guilty men to go free than for one innocent man to be convicted," Mr. Marquis said. "Is it better for 100,000 guilty men to walk free rather than have one innocent man convicted? The cost-benefit policy answer is no."


At the University of Michigan, Professor Gross said that was the wrong calculus.

"No rate of preventable errors that destroy people's lives and destroy the lives of those close to them is acceptable," he said.

 Barry Scheck, a founder of the Innocence Project, said Mr. Marquis's analysis ignored another point.

 "Every time an innocent person is convicted," Mr. Scheck said, "it means there are more guilty people out there who are still committing crimes."


My thoughts???
Yep, I already knew he felt this way… He PROSECUTES this way.
All you have to do is type “corruption in Clatsop county”
In the google bar, and you can see for yourself… the GOOD STUFF , starts on page 5 or so… Hmmm wonder why that is?
There’s actual Case files, dates, names/witnesses, ETC…..
HOW does this kind of thing happen nowadays???
A question, I continue to ask myself…….

Sunday, March 10, 2013

Preschool Evaluation Results & "passing it on"


Good Day~~~
***WOW***
What a WEEK I have had..... You know, I wouldn't say I'm getting "used" to the UN-expected, but I've come to EXPECT it now. 
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My son,
will be starting some "extra classes" in a couple of weeks, through the preschool and ESD, the evaluations he had done, MONTHS AGO,
I had the "meeting" going over the results, last week......
    Much to my surprise, he actually did really WELL on communication and Language..... And, when he had THAT part of the test, they made the appointment for 1:15... NAP is usually at 12:30 !!!  I told them that, MORE than once, and said "I'm not responsible for the results"
anyway,, after about two HOURS, a long time for a tired 3 year old, he laid in the floor and said "time for Sammy to Nap now"
So, the "results" were that he "hit" the mark for his age, and would've ONLY SCORED HIGHER, had he finished the test.... That was good to hear.
     the rest??? Not so much....... I mean, don't get me wrong, I ONLY want what's BEST for him, and I do NOT want him to flunk kindergarten or something.... He won't be starting until 2014 anyway, and that's a good thing too, giving him extra time to "catch up"..   The 3 or 4 evaluations were done in November & December. so he'd only been in preschool 3 months... (he was 3yr 11 mos)
     The 3 areas he's "delayed" in are  COGNITIVE,  ADAPTIVE,  and  SOCIAL
~~~In the **COGNITIVE** category, the things he didn't score "average" on --- sorting physical objects by shape/color, when asked to bring (#) of blocks/something to the evaluator, he didn't, they also reported he didn't know his shapes, but HE DOES NOW, and well I might add. But I don't know if he DID know when the test was done..... He wasn't able to "memorize" a short list of numbers, or a line from a book, ETC....
  ~~~ The **ADAPTIVE** category, this one's a little strange, because it includes "self care" and personal responsibility... Sam does GREAT at self-care, I mean he uses the toilet, and "cleans up" after REALLY WELL.... Of course I've not put up with LESS in that department..... Anyway and he dresses/undresses himself, only needing help with Zippers/Buttons sometimes. According to them, that's above average, at the time of the Eval. OKAY, the part he didn't do so well on... it's sort of a long list........
he lacks personal responsibility for "completing individual tasks"... the teacher said she has to remind or re-direct him every 3-4 minutes..... (hhmmm sounds highly familiar) he  LACKS what they call "SAFETY AWARENESS" and  "Stranger Danger" because he'll talk to anyone, that talks to him, they asked during the eval, "if a stranger asked you to get in their car, what would you do?" he said, get in my car seat..... He's a friendly kid, and I hadn't really STARTED with the whole "beware of strangers" thing, until they began talking about it at school.  So, he also TRIES to pay attention, like holding your hand, when in a parking lot, but lets say he sees Grandma, he'll RUN for her, without a second thought.......he tries to climb EVERYTHING,,, he's followed me onto a rooftop up an extension ladder`....Guess I should have thought about sharing that........... to HIM it's not "DANGEROUS" because it's a NORMAL thing to watch ME do, all the time, with NO problems.....
Also in the adaptive section,,, they are concerned, he gets OVERWHELMED easily,  gets upset easily , 
and scared of LOUD or sudden noise. he ALWAYS has been. It's better than it WAS... but still an issue. The Teacher also said, he won't/can't finish a task, without constant guidance.ALSO-- he doesn't follow/participate in classroom activities.... He will, but needs the constant "reminding" to do so. AND LASTLY,,,,,
they said he CLEANS OBSESSIVELY,,,,,, and they think there MAY be some obsessive tendencies, especially compared to his peers. He wanted to VACUUM, during "Free Play" the first 2 weeks of school. by the 3rd week, the teacher HID the Vacuum, Sam would GET UP in the middle of circle time, or some activity and START CLEANING..........
~~~Last but not least, the SOCIAL/EMOTIONAL~~~
at the time of the Eval, he didn't know his last name, but DOES NOW and actually knows both his mom/dad's first and last name. But, he should have  "had that" at the time of the testing. He also didn't know boy/girl or he/she... Probably because I want him to treat EVERYONE the SAME... and not KNOW that Mom has a "boy job" for AS LONG AS POSSIBLE.... I want him to KNOW, he can do ANYTHING HE WANTS TO. 
     MUCH of what they discussed in THIS AREA,,, he is JUST LIKE ME.....   I remember my Mom having the SAME TALKS , with MY teachers......
Sam will NOT follow Classroom rules without "resistance".. He often presents a "protest" whenever it's time to do a group activity, and disrupts the entire classroom. When it's "circle time" and the teacher is reading in front of the class, Sam will go get a Book HE LIKES, and walk up, take the book out of the teachers hand and Announce "READ THIS ONE"........ Disrupting the entire class, and not even noticing. he also wanders around the room, or cleans, instead of sitting with the class. When "corrected" he'll display a tantrum or Protest. Sam will not follow rules/take turns or share, during simple games or activities in a group setting. He often interrupts the teachers while instructing, only getting louder when corrected..... Disruption of the class, was one of the teachers MAIN concerns...
the positive things they said, were he has empathy for his peers, and displays affection, wants to get along with them. Sam likes school, and has a positive attitude toward it. he helps others and wants to make someone feel 'better' when they are upset. 
But he doesn't act "appropriately" with peers during "NON PLAY" activities......Example--- Won't SHARE, TAKE TURNS, or WAIT in LINE.... 
Lastly,,, he acts anxious alot of the time, when trying to wait, or share, and often upsets easily taking  up to five mins to DE-stress. They said, THAT TIME frame is still NORMAL for his age, which was GOOD TO HEAR... He still does that, but I'm sure I "calm" him faster than a teacher can.....
~~~~~~~~~~ The last thing they discussed with me, was the "summary" 
and I took notes while the teacher was "expressing what her concerns are", Mainly that he will NOT follow directions/rules and is very resistant when corrected.... and the BASICS ARE----
He's got NO ATTENTION SPAN,  he's RESISTANT to AUTHORITY,  IMPATIENT, Easily Frustrated, a tad bit arrogant, and borderline Obsessive/compulsive and lets not forget IMPULSIVE......
. Well HONESTLY it sounds like a 50/50 Mix of his DAD AND ME,,,, followed by ONLY CHILD syndrome!! he doesn't have to "share" at home, or take turns, ETC.... there's no need to interrupt, he's the ONLY ONE>......
    The INTERESTING thing to ME,,,,,   these are ALL THINGS I have dealt with MY WHOLE LIFE.... 
I was an anxious kid, hell I'm an anxious adult.... I have been diagnosed with OCD, more than  once and was on meds for it, at 20/21.  I'm for sure ADHD, and of course the school thinks Sam is too. My official "diagnosis" is ADHD/Impulsively -- he may in fact BE..... but I'm very hesitant to LABEL him so early. They were going to "forward" the result onto his primary doctor, and suggest tests for ADD/ADHD and OCD.........
you know, what's wrong with being a LITTLE DIFFERENT THAN EVERYONE ELSE????
I hate, trying to fit my KID, into this "box"
One thing I told the "team" at the meeting was, SCHOOL is the ONLY TIME in your life, that you have to sit, and focus and not interrupt, ETC ETC.... then it's ALL OVER and the real world HITS. Even if you do have a DESK job, your on the phone, going to meetings, ALL kinds of things, so pounding this "sit still and listen" thing,  into his SUBCONSCIOUS, just doesn't "fly" with me....
   I'm NOT saying I won't address the issue, HELP him cope with it, ETC ETC,,, I'm just NOT going to teach him that his "only option" in life, is to "be THIS WAY" and conform to "the box" all the OTHER kids fit in........He's a "Free Spirit" and that's one of the things I LOVE about him.......
They talked about how they have "adjusted" some activities for Sam, giving him a tangible object to hold Or a "job" to do, and that HELPS keep him "centered"    I do the SAME THING... I have him hold the list at the store, hold my car keys in a line, ANYTHING to help him NOT "protest" as they say.... HILARIOUS........ Know what his "PROTEST" consists of????
BEING LOUD, and either stomping or throwing what ever's around.... not always, sometimes it's just yelling and crying until you GIVE IN..... Or leave the store/line/etc with him UNDER YOUR ARM... which I've done PLENTY of.......
AT LEAST,,,, it does "validate" for me that he's a challenging child... I mean, I KNEW it, but didn't know how he "compared" to anyone else's kid..... NOW I KNOW.... 
I was blessed with MY PAYBACK-----  I've apologized to my mom and dad NUMEROUS times since Sam turned two years old... they just LAUGH........ I'm sure it's NICE for them to see ME struggle like they once did. I KNOW now, WHY they said what they did, or just "lost it" once in awhile....
I do lose my "cool" on occasion,,, but I do apologize to him, for yelling & losing patience. The therapist says, that's HEALTHY for me to do, that EVERY parent loses it at least once in awhile and try not to be so hard on myself.... She told me last week, after I showed her the "packet" of results..... WELL, now you KNOW why you lose patience sometimes. Think about it, SOME KIDS WATCH T.V. or will SIT and COLOR for an hour.... even IF not an hour, at least 30 minutes..... Well, YOU can't do that, with him,,, you don't get TWO  MINUTES of that.... usually....
So,  OF COURSE you're going to lose patience, that's OKAY...... she explained more, but it ALL MADE ME FEEL BETTER......
     We had a "home visit" Friday, to follow Wednesday's appointment. The "Family Advocate" as they call her, from Head Start, came along on the home visit. Upon discussion of everything, she told me she was---
 ""highly impressed with Mike's parenting skills. He always made sure to tell him goodbye & to give a hug, let him know who'd pick him up at the end of the day. When Sam would resist a bit, he was Stern, yet Affectionate."
She also said, we should ask for this evaluation that DHS does, where they evaluate a child's "reaction" to their parent. DHS uses this as a "guide" to investigate abuse/neglect/ETC. AND, SHE used to do THAT JOB.... Now, she's at head start and she says she can spot a "dysfunctional" parent/child relationship pretty easily...... AND the thought NEVER ONCE came to mind, of ANY thing like that with Sam or either of us. Sam was always just as happy to see his Dad or me when school was over. In closing she said she'd GLADLY say all of that, or we can use her as a reference, for court, She'd gladly be the supervisor for visits IF needed, ETC.  Well it's NICE to know that at least some other people can SEE Mike is a good father, and no predator..........
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       Mike will be ON electric monitoring on Monday… So, NO JAIL…. What a relief…….....................  I am thankful for THAT MUCH.......
On another note......
He DOES have a court date, next week... And I'm hopeful that even though it's the SAME JUDGE as the plea hearing, she will remember talking about him watching our son, and helping with him, and LIVING AS A FAMILY.... that's the MOST important thing to ME, right now. .  . . . . 
so, the PO gave another TEMPORARY "okay" for him to stay at gram's place. she said, she'll still have to "talk to the neighbors" ,,,,, WOW.......  so, I look up online, what "guidelines" there are for PREDATORY and NON-predatory, offenders, and WHO decides, ETC ETC.......
She is USING the PREDATORY guidelines/rules for him. He's NOT been labeled that, YET, that I KNOW OF.... and the Lawyer says, she's NOT supposed to be using those rules, 
BUT when I looked it up--- According to the state of Oregon, IF you are ON supervision, your Supervising Officer  CAN make whatever rules they want, whatever they are comfortable with, ETC.... Pretty much, they can make you "abide" to whatever rule/standard they WANT TO.......
Until OFF SUPERVISION that is. Then, there's NOTHING anyone can say, about much of anything. Unless, you ARE in fact Predatory, then your not supposed to live within so many feet of a school/daycare/ETC........ But A LOT of RSO's, Register as ***TRANSIENT***.... 
then live WHERE EVER they WANT.......
that's our system, that's how it WORKS*** Or "fails", depending on what YOU think of it....
I've read some reports/studies that say, having the "registry" does NOTHING for protecting the community. The "re-arrest" rate of sex offenders, is LESS than 15% unless they have been convicted more than three times, then it's around 30%........In case you didn't know, that's REALLY LOW..... Impressive to ME.....
the "re-arrest" rate for a heroin addict is over FIFTY PERCENT!! I've read a few articles that even say more like 70%.....
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This entry,, I've been working on it since yesterday, to get ALL the INFO about Sam in it.....
I had NO IDEA they "expect" all of this, by the time a kid is FOUR....... I mean, WOW.......
So, I thought by posting it, MAYBE  I can HELP another parent out there, with there FIRST child, who has NO IDEA either......
I have my moments, where I think about ALL my mistakes, and think, WOULD he have been "this way" If I hadn't have done this, or that, or the other???
I'll NEVER KNOW..... I do KNOW that I'm doing MY VERY BEST........ and ESPECIALLY now,
that I'm doing it alone......................................
If we/he does NOT get a judge's order, it could be a YEAR before they are together, again...... 
A YEAR, is a long-ass time for a four year old.
I don't think he'll EVER be able to live at our HOME again........ Not for three years anyway. Who knows what will/can happen by THEN.... With the way things have been going. 
Sometimes, I just want to give up. Its so incredibly difficult to NOT know what the next day will bring.  To not even have the CHOICE of living as a FAMILY.....
    At the end of each day now,
I think of three POSITIVE things, about the day. What ever that may be. "sam didn't have a tantrum at the store" for example. 
that's helping me stay a LITTLE positive, at least.
With that, I'm signing OUT....... Everyone have a GREAT week, and I'll write up anything we find out, in court next week.......
















Sunday, March 3, 2013

Our Family saga continues-------



Mike's probation officer denied my grandmother's house. She gave him ***Ten days***
to find a place to live....
A place~~~
NOT (by/near/next to/across from)  a park, school, shopping center, or anywhere children will/may gather. What a freaking joke........(since this "victim" is 27 )
The only 'good' thing I found out,
 the last seven days, is that he *only* has to register while ON probation. . . So, there's some hope there at least. 36 months CAN go by fast,,, IF you aren't homeless.
If he's NOT ON MONITORING, by the time this ten days is up basically,,,, he MUST check into County Jail (by 8am), for the Remainder of his 'sentence' = thirty days.
the time sentence w/plea deal, was sixty days total, w/28 credit-for-time-served.
Mike SPECIFICALLY stated to the judge, he wanted to do Electric Monitoring (house arrest)   SO that he could watch his son, thus saving money on daycare..........
YEP< SUCKS.
that date, is the 12th of March....... How the hell did THIS HAPPEN???
I have NO IDEA.......
 I mean, I get what happened with the actual charges, and all.......But when the attorney informed me,that the "plea" he was looking at, had this ONE little stipulation in it, of having to register,,,,, as a sex offender......... I was really against it..... but Mike was just REALLY ready to get OUT.....
While I was on the phone with the attorney,,,,  I said, "my biggest fear is, him not being able to live with us, or him being separated even longer from his son"
He just assured me,,,,,, again and again, THAT wouldn't happen........
Yeah,,,, I'm so glad I listened.
MOVING ON NOW....
This is the most difficult thing, I've ever dealt with....... Seriously.......
YES,
getting off drugs, was difficult, VERY DIFFICULT,,,, 
it took LOTS of attempts, and all the guilt and shame I felt for what I was doing..... I didn't even know what to do, except MORE drugs.... I know it sounds CRAZY..... but that's how addiction works... anyways........ THAT was  hard, but this is worse because at least when I was in DT's and with-drawls, I knew I made the RIGHT decision.... I KNEW it was going to get BETTER as time went on.......... I KNEW it could NOT get worse. No matter how "bad" I felt, I knew deep down in my heart, it would get better, and every hour that passed, was an hour I never ever had to do "over" like the YEARS beforehand, when I'd be that sick, ALL the time.gt
Not knowing,
what the next 'day' will bring,,, Having NO WHERE for your husband, to LIVE.... Yeah, that's tough.....
Don't take my words the wrong way, here , either..... I'm not saying, that he's one hundred percent innocent... Honestly, If he wouldn't have lied during that INITIAL interview, and he hadn't have been overly-friendly----- well he'd probably be awaiting TRIAL right now.
So, I'm NOT saying he doesn't deserve ANY CONSEQUENCES, here.
BUT,
I think the consequences he IS dealing with, are a LITTLE BIT EXTREME, wouldn't you say??
You know how there is those stories,
of a "THIEF" getting their right hand CHOPPED OFF, for stealing???
Well, this is kinda like getting your hand, maybe your fingers CHOPPED for stealing a loaf of bread............or a candy bar?
 A little bit dramatic, a little BLOWN OUT of proportion............
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Honestly,,,,,
I don't even really know what to do ...... I've written two letters, this last week.
FIRST ,,, I wrote one to the "judge"
for whenever, he gets a hearing....... is allowed to SEE a judge and hopefully gets things in WRITING.........
I'll post part of that,, at the bottom..... I don't want to post anything, toooooo personal, I'm sure you can't blame me, there.
AND THE SECOND,,,,
I wrote to the County Sheriff...... I actually "met" him when I was just 18 years old.
and I thought, it might be worth a SHOT, to write him, about everything, explain it all, just on the OFF CHANCE
he'd be able to HELP ME... I really DID go into details on that one... I pretty much explained the last 12 and a half years, in it.
Almost like a "highlight reel" from a football game. 
**********LETS HOPE HE CAN HELP..........
If not, I guess I'll start writing Senators, and the Governor, any other ELECTED official worried about taxpayers/voters and me getting louder and louder.

SOMETHING IS TOTALLY WRONG WITH THIS SITUATION
and I'm not just going to "sit around" and let it slide.
IT"S WRONG.....
this is NOT why I pay taxes... and I'm pretty sure the VAST MAJORITY of tax payers/voters would be rather pissy to hear,
how mike is being held away from his son, and EVENTUALLY I could be FORCED to quit my job and go on "assistance" because of it.
For what reason?
I don't know.... YOUR GUESS IS AS GOOD AS MINE
IF this P.O. would have GIVEN ME A REASON,,,
I might not be as "fired up" as I am...
BUT,,,,,
to just FORBID him from seeing his son, and living with his family,,,
"" Because it's not stated that HE CAN""
well that sounds like an ABUSE OF AUTHORITY TO ME....
********************************************************************************* Well here's the "points" for the judge, to look over.
IF we EVER get a court date, that is.... Because it won't matter too much, after the 12th  of March, Not for 30  days, anyways.


On Behalf of:
Michael  Cowan 
RE: Probation/plea bargain
 Not being allowed to have contact w/his four year old son, or live at the residence he was at, Or even at family member's residence. (no other options)

1.) Mr. Cowan was living at *****************************
He and his wife purchased  home in June/2012
Current Probation officer is not allowing him to live there, on account of taking sex offender rehabilitation classes. 
Further more, there are NO other children on the block(besides his only son), where the house is located. the probation officer gives the reason of it being a "family  oriented neighborhood" and there being children in the area, as him not being able to live there; along with a "bus stop" On the "main road" approximately 500 ft from the house.... (you can't 'see' it from our house, though)


2.) Upon being told "no" about living at home, and having NO contact with his son by the probation officer, Michael arranged to stay with Amber's Grandmother--********** Lewis Rd, Warrenton,Or   -------On Tuesday, February 26th, --------
the probation officer came out to "look around" the property, and didn't like that there is a park, just across the street. The house is actually three lots, the largest on the block, and the actual home sits all the way to the back of the property. it's actually closer to "clark road" than Lewis road (park is off lewis road/not clark road) , but the P.O. Denied him being able to live there, and gave him TWO WEEKS to find a new residence, from the 26th. Reason being, the park across the street. Even though, it's been pointed out, there is a registered predatory sex offender, living about a quarter mile just north of this address. Michael has not been deemed predatory, or accused of a violent crime. 


3.) Amber , Michael's wife is currently paying  $550/month since his arrest in January, for daycare as she works full time. It was brought up in court, at the early resolution conference, Michael being able to help out by working part time while his son attends Preschool, and watching him the rest of the day, thus saving almost $500 a month. Nothing to "stop" that was said, but the Probation Officer has stated time and time again, He's not allowed to have ANY contact with his son, until he's completed sex offender rehabilitation classes AND he can never live in the current neighborhood, period. The P.O. has also stated, that because there were NO specific instructions saying he COULD have contact with his son, or he could live with his family, that she will not "advocate" for that. ***Please see attached information for more on that subject.


4.) Amber and Michael met with the probation officer to see WHERE exactly he is supposed to live. She said, the "Restoration House" in Seaside, which costs $450/month.

According to the Probation Officer, he obviously cannot live with his family, at the Grandmother's house, OR the homeless shelter (too close to a women/children's shelter), All of their family and extended family and/or Friends ALL HAVE CHILDREN.


5.) Michael (and his wife) Fully intend on having him complete the $2500 evaluation, within the 60 day time period---ONLY  IF Amber can get some help with daycare. He's going to complete the sex offender rehabilitation classes, as  he does NOT want to violate his probation, and end up doing a 25 month prison term.


6.) To be successful, Michael ---- 
Needs to have a legal address. Either, with his family , or at his wife's grandmother's home. Those are really the only options they can afford; And be able to afford the probation fees, Evaluation ($2500), regular household bills, fines, classes, ETC. It looks like everything else will "fall" into place, if they can all reside together as a family.


Now, that you've read that..... Am I asking for MUCH????
It doesn't feel like I am.......
Where it says "please see attached information" 
I just wrote maybe  a one page (typed) letter, saying that his "crime" was nothing to do with anyone under 18, the "victim" is 27 years old... so why can't he be with his child......
So,,,,,,,,
What the hell, right? why is this child thing such a HUGE ISSUE??? 
I mean, Him NOT being able to see his son, or even LIVE in a close proximity of CHILDREN....

I'm sorry to say,,,,
but IF he were some KIND of child-predator, , , I'm about 200 % SURE I would have known before 12 and a half YEARS of being together............
He would have made at least ONE mistake, before TWELVE YEARS TIME........
I mean, c'mon........
this is just ridiculous..... People think I'm totally lying about the accusation/crime/whatever because of how BAD these consequences are.............. It's NOT until they READ the reports with their OWN EYES,,, do they FINALLY say, 
WHAT???????
all I can think, is TELL ME about it !!!!!!!!
I'm the ONE living this freaking nightmare!!!!
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That's about all I can say.
Feeling pretty hopeless these days..... Not being together, Sam always asking me for his Daddy to come HOME NOW.......
really gets depressing.
We ALL make mistakes,,, every single one of us is HUMAN, and CAN learn to be better.
But,
One huge, enormous fear I currently have,,,,
Is if this situation continues, and HE is just as hopeless as I AM, , , , , , What reason does he have to TRY TO BE BETTER????
Your answer is NONE.
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the most shocking thing to me,
in this SO CALLED judicial system..... is the ONE THING they say over and over and over
in Addiction Treatment,
is "you can NEVER have too much support"
anyone knows as well as I do,,,, the vast majority of people "in the system" do NOT have any support, at all. They have burned every bridge they've crossed.
Well,
IF this "program"; this Probation Officer, REALLY wanted him to get "better" or REALLY thought he WAS DANGEROUS,,,
why on Earth, would she take the ONLY THING he cared about away??????
does that make ANY SENSE???
No---------
Not when there's NO REASON to do so.
If his crime was against a child, or EVEN a male, okay,,,,, I might say, "you win"
BUT ITS NOT
IF it was brutal, I'd definitely PERSONALLY have my doubts, on what should be done, before he could be around his own child, another child, ETC.
*****POINT IS*****
neither is true or even part of the statement.

So,,,
Now I know the reason MOST people, once arrested, just make this circular trip in and out of jail the rest of their lives, WELL THIS IS WHY......................
Once released,
they have EVERYTHING taken away.... anything they MIGHT NOT have lost, because of their
crime/mistake/misfortune IS TAKEN AWAY....
so why even try?
it's like, 
Telling your kid,
they will NEVER eat ice cream again, NEVER have another new toy, EVER.
why would they do a THING you asked???
Think about THAT the next time you 'think' you've spotted a criminal.
Ponder what they USED to be like, before every ounce of dignity, self-respect, confidence and every thing they LOVED was taken from them.
I'd be willing to bet they were basically a  GOOD PERSON................
Or,
the NEXT time you hear about a sex crime.... maybe instead of AUTOMATICALLY thinking, the person is guilty,,,,,,, Ponder just how much is messed up for them, JUST from the accusation. Not to mention their family, children, etc.
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I have NO IDEA what will happen next.......
It's looking like Mike will be homeless in a matter of days.
Then, he'll have to go do his 30 days, so I guess the POSITIVE thing, is at least he won't freeze to death for thirty days............
And, it's not because he doesn't HAVE a place,,
it's because he's not ALLOWED to stay there. 
I'm just going to keep writing letters, keep making calls, keep trying.
But I'm running out of TIME,,, and options.


And I'm leaving you all with two of my favorite quotes these days..........
Please send all the  "good"  you can , , , this way, , , we could sure use it.....
as always
************THANKS for Reading***********


****UPDATE**** {After reading}
WOW-------I sound so...... Negative? Something like that.....
I really don't mean to. I'm not UN happy..... I'm not exactly what I'd call "HAPPY "   right now, for obvious reasons.... But I do continue to look at the BRIGHT SIDE OF THINGS----
As I've learned HOW to do, over the last 22 1/2 months........
Not the easiest thing for me to do right now, but I do somehow find reasons to smile, all day long.
***Life IS what YOU MAKE IT***
Meaning,,, There's SO MANY REASONS I could be depressed right now,
but I CHOOSE not to be.----------
Dance IN the rain, laugh like a KID, TRY not to let the "big" problems in life, overwhelm the small things you find JOY IN.....
that's ll for now.... Had to say something NICE, with all the negativity