Sunday, November 25, 2012

Thanksgiving~my son's specialist~exhaustion

HAPPY THANKSGIVING EVERYONE.............
If you were to take a photo, of my life
one year ago,
and today,,,,
they'd be unrecognizable as the same family......
WE Haven't changed, as much as every other single thing about our lives has. We moved, Mike's back to work(at a job he really likes), I'm THE (only) finisher at my job, my teeth sure look better :-),,   and we are HAPPY , honestly happy after some very big struggles & issues......
I have SOOOO much to be thankful for,,, and I truly do NOT take it for granted.
Last week, I worked mon-weds early/late every day,,,,, I was gone for two hours, in the middle of the day, to go to the "mental health evaluation"
When I got there, I was waiting for at least 15mins,,,,,
then , the "specialist" gets there, pretty much immediately,they take my son into another room, with the "assistant teacher"
So, the teacher leads me into a room the specialist lady is already sitting in, along with the "director" of the center, and another teacher/assistant I did not know. I was thinking,,,,
I thought this was an evaluation???
Also,
I was on my lunch break, so I'm pretty much covered in primer and paint.... I did TRY and clean up, but they are ALL looking at the paint, all up and down my forearms.
It was tense, I was nervous, these four "professionals" and ME, at a table to talk about ALL the problems/issues with MY son.......
So the specialist starts off by saying that she's been observing him since he started there, and he's definitely made improvements, with following along as the other   kids do, and all that.......
but she believes he has HIGH INTELLIGENCE for his age, AND he's probably HYPER-SENSITIVE to anything NEW< or LOUD (duh!) or overwhelming,,,,
children like him, that  "take in" EVERYTHING around them, are so far "ahead" of their age, that they get OVERWHELMED VERY EASILY......................

years, and she specializes in learning disabilities, extreme behaviors, and ADD/ADHD~~~~~WELL next what she said, shocked me, I'd have to say,,,,
she explains that she's been observing children my son's age  for over 17 years, and in that time she's only seen maybe 10 kids that were as "ahead" of their age; intellectually as HE IS.....

she also added~
Im not sure if he's add/adhd, he very well could be, , , , but it's just a BIT too early to tell right now, especially since he's just EXTREMELY
intelligent.
(im thinking,,, WHAT?????  MY kid????)
so, I talk about his "home behaviors" and how he absolutely does get worked up rather easily,,, he IS sensitive to almost too much of anything,,,,
and so on.
that we NEED to work on KEEPING him thinking/reasoning/rationing and KEEP his attention,,,,
with games, LOTS of hands -on type stuff, if we don't then he will get bored VERY easily,, and not "keep it up" basically, the wanting to learn EVERYTHING.......
which is NOT a bad thing, but IS a challenging thing, especially for parents.
It was GREAT to get some tips/advice on
WHAT to do, when he's overwhelmed and/or upset.
Since that happens fairly often.....
I actually learned a lot, and Feel MUCH better about things, now.......
Since weds,,
It's only been a couple of days, but the difference is AMAZING,,, with just knowing different ways to HELP him handle things, being better at NOT overwhelming him, and knowing what to do in 'unfamiliar' situations, like thanksgiving dinner with all the family....    :-)
I find myself  not yelling, AT ALL..... Being much more patient,,, and I thought I was good at "picking my battles" before...............
But honestly, I've gotten much better at it the last few days...   :-)
The BIGGEST difference,
is with HIM.... He just seems over-all more calm,,, and less anxious.....
I want him to STAY happy.... So we will KEEP working at this, keep doing our very best....
The appointment at preschool lasted almost 45 mins. So I missed almost TWO HOURS of work.....I definitely made it up though..........
Overall, I liked the specialist lady,
I felt like she was TRYING to help, and not TRYING to diagnose him way too early. In her opinion, you can't even START to look for ADD/ADHD until "full  day" school begins.... Makes sense to ME......
OH,,,,,
We went to the store, thanksgiving day, before our "get-together" they did have some early sales............ We ended up having my Mom help, with her discount, we got Sam one of those HUGE power wheel Jeeps,,,
the TWO-seater ones!!! Weight limit is  140 pounds!!
I'm SUPER excited to give it to him!!!
He's going to be SOOO shocked............ We're going to give it to him for his birthday,,, I CAN'T wait til the END of December, to give it to him!!! NO WAY!
Last year,
We could only buy him a couple of small things, and for Christmas, he was on the "giving tree" so he got a bag of presents, which I was VERY appreciative of....
So, this year, I'd really like to grab a name off the tree, and let MY son, pick out a present for a kid that was in OUR spot, last year.......
I wish I could do even MORE than that, but "baby steps", right???
that's how I've gotten THIS FAR!!!
you know,
it REALLY IS shocking, how much you can REBUILD your life, in a year and a half....
think about how FAST that goes by ....................
Yet, it's enough time to change just about EVERYTHING and then some.....
It took around 6 years to slowly destroy everything,
especially the last two.............
and I really didn't think I'd be where I am now, ALREADY.......
I know I sure have worked my ASS off to get here, I just for some reason thought it might take SIX years , to get it "back on track"
I guess it's all about
HOW BAD YOU WANT TO....... How hard your willing to work!!!
it's overwhelming when you start to think,
you'll be dealing with "cravings"
the REST OF YOUR LIFE...............
Thanks for listening to  my completely exhausted thoughts  today............
thanksgiving was great,,
other than NOT relaxing over a four day weekend, as I thought it was going to be, about two weeks ago, before all hell broke loose........
My lil guy is asleep at the moment,
but I KNOW he's been missing his mommy very much, the last week or so,
and it's not going to be ANY BETTER until after the 1st..............
When he wakes up I'm taking him to the PARK!!!
the sun is out today, even though it's cold, NO RAIN, and WE are going to do something with it!!!
:-)
Leaving you with a picture of his FIRST birthday, and his FIRST christmas :-)
~~~ Technically, it's his SECOND Christmas, he was just nine days old,
FIRST christmas~~~





 
 
 

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